I wanted to share an article with you this Sunday Morning from the Advocate about Jody Huckaby who is a Eunice Native and Executive Director or PFLAG – Parents/Friends of Lesbians and Gays.
As a personal note, I first heard about this organization as a student at ULL in 2006 and I am glad to see that a Louisiana native is making his home state proud in promoting equal rights.
Here is the article to read in its entirety:
La. native promotes gay, lesbian equality
By Steven Ward
Advocate staff writer
Jody M. Huckaby grew up Catholic, went to Catholic schools and was raised by devout Catholic parents in Eunice.
So when Huckaby, 47, told his parents while he was in college that he is gay, it was “tough” to do, he recalls.
“It’s very hard when your religion tells you something is wrong but then you are talking about your child,” Huckaby said recently.
Still, his parents, who were both raised in Church Point, eventually accepted Huckaby for who he is.
“They started out rejecting it. Then they moved to tolerance and then went to acceptance and finally they celebrated it,” Huckaby said.
The personal journey Huckaby and his parents went through was one of the big reasons Huckaby took a job more than seven years ago as executive director of Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays National, also known as PFLAG National.
PFLAG is a family and straight ally organization that helps to advance equality for lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgender individuals through support, education and advocacy.
PFLAG, which formed in 1972 in New York City, is celebrating its 40th anniversary with a yearlong campaign assessing what the nonprofit group has achieved so far. There are 350 PFLAG chapters in the United States.
The Baton Rouge chapter of PFLAG, which met for the first time in August, will be a year old when its members meet on Aug. 16.
By coincidence, Huckaby will be the guest speaker at the Baton Rouge chapter meeting in August.
Huckaby said he is excited to speak in Baton Rouge next month not only because of his family ties to Louisiana — he has a sister living in the capital city who is a Catholic nun — but because of the population growth the city has experienced since Hurricane Katrina struck Louisiana in 2005.
The Baton Rouge chapter president, Carol Frazier, said the organization has achieved steady attendance at its monthly meetings at the Unitarian Church on Goodwood Boulevard.
“We have between 25 and 35 attendees each month. I think that’s good compared to other chapters that are only a year old. We do see new people each month,” Frazier said.
The Baton Rouge meetings usually feature a guest speaker as well as breakout sessions enabling small groups of members to talk about “whatever comes up,” Frazier said.
“The parents meet in their own group. They don’t always feel comfortable with the younger people,” Frazier said.
Varied reactions, feelings and emotions frequently arise in those smaller sessions, Frazier said, ranging from tears and laughter to silence, she said.
“You can see an interesting growth in people. I remember a mom who came and she didn’t say a word. She didn’t accept her child’s news. Now she speaks freely and is very accepting,” Frazier said.
Still, PFLAG National is not about preaching, Huckaby said.
“You can’t preach. People will just walk away. A big message we have is you do not have to throw out your faith to be accepting and loving,” Huckaby said.
Although Huckaby and his parents had no experiences with PFLAG when he confided back in college that he is gay, his mother’s turning point to acceptance and understanding of her son came from another, more traditional source.
Huckaby said his mother read the “Dear Abby” column in the Eunice News religiously throughout her life.
One day, she read a letter in the column from the mother of a lesbian who asked how she was supposed to deal with the news.
“The advice was, you still need to love your child just like you did the day before. The second piece of advice was to go find PFLAG and get more information,” Huckaby said.
For more information about the Baton Rouge chapter, call Frazier at (225) 241-8676.
For more information about PFLAG National, visit http://www.pflag.org.